Having Conflict Is Not The Same As Having A Problem

The word "problem" is meant to expose difficulties or questions that need to be answered or solved. If you are in debt, you can seek financial advice or even bankruptcy. Problem solved. If you are unhappy with your marriage you can seek either counseling or divorce. Problem solved. "Conflict", on the other hand does not require answers or solutions. My wisdom tells me that underneath every unresolved conflict there is hidden fear about an unsolvable problem and a lack of confidence about how to resolve it. What does your wisdom say?

  • Can you think of a time that there was a problem your couldn't solve and why?
  • Can you think of a wise person you know who is consistently good at problem-solving? How?
  • Can you share a personal story of a situation where a conflict revealed fear of a problem that then got resolved with solutions rather than justifications, and the wisdom gained?